Yesterday when I was in that HUGE bookstore, I saw the book “10-10-10.” I had checked it out from the library quite some time ago, but had forgotten about it.
It is a book about decision making. You ask yourself, how will this decision/choice affect me in the next 10 minutes? the next 10 months? the next 10 years? Or, short term, mid term, and long term.
So, if I decide to stay, in the next 10 minutes, I would feel overwhelming sadness, and it would be hard. In 10 months, I imagine that my life would still be sad to me, and difficult, and in 10 years, the same thing. I really have little to no hope of things ever improving in my marriage.
And if I decided to leave, in the next 10 minutes, I think I would feel incredible relief. In ten months, however, I think my life would be very, very, hard. But in 10 years, I think I would probably be pretty happy.