Monthly Archives: January 2012

Abusive characteristics

“…defining the key behaviors of an abusive man and the characteristics of the relationship he creates: Give and take in the relationship goes grossly out of whack.  You end up giving way more than your share, while your partner is … Continue reading

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depressed ramblings

This morning I woke up depressed.  Again.  Nothing new here. As I was lying in bed feeling depressed, I was thinking that ten years from now, I will probably still wake up feeling depressed, because nothing will have changed.  The … Continue reading

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Evening again

Tonight he hung around and talked and talked and talked.  About his work.   Which is fine. But then I was wondering what I would like to talk about.  I guess it doesn’t matter anyway, because anything I would want to … Continue reading

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“What If No Approach Works?”

“A lot of relationships can change, but some will not – that is the bad news.  Your decision may be that closing a door makes more sense to you than always having to knock on it to see if your … Continue reading

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from Dave Ramsey

This is from Dave Ramsey’s radio show of Jan. 26, 2012  Dave is reading an email question on the air and then giving an answer. “Dave, is it possible for me to succeed if my spouse is not willing to … Continue reading

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3 a.m. thoughts

Lunch went o.k.  No conflict. Externally.  Tolerable conversation. Mostly.  Scrabble went o.k.  He won, thanks to me showing him “quiz” over a triple-word-score, resulting in 66 points.  He beat me by 50.  So today was outwardly pleasant enough between us.  … Continue reading

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“Getting Out”

“While it might be a mistake to give up on a relationship with a passive-aggressive man until all avenues for change have been explored, at some point, you must cut your losses.  If you’ve tried your best to contain his … Continue reading

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makes you crazy – or not

Living with a passive aggressive man will make you feel crazy. Thankfully, when I figured out that he was passive aggressive, it went a long way in helping me realize that I wasn’t crazy!  For about three or four years … Continue reading

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Why am I still here?

Money. Fear – what if I am alone for the rest of my life? Guilt – what if it’s my fault the marriage is empty? Doubt – maybe it’s not really that bad; maybe it’s wrong to leave. Laziness – … Continue reading

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Post Script

My past couple of posts have been about being sad, being unhappy, and when I read back through my blog, it sound so very, very sad and depressing. I’m not always sad!  I’m sad a lot more than I want … Continue reading

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