“What If No Approach Works?”

“A lot of relationships can change, but some will not – that is the bad news.  Your decision may be that closing a door makes more sense to you than always having to knock on it to see if your passive-aggressive spouse is in or out.  Leaving, sometimes, is your only solution. If, over the years, most of your energy is expended on short-lived and essentially ineffective repairs to the relationship, rather than living the relationship with its pleasures and pains, it may be time to get out.

“At a certain point, you have to recognize that your interests will be trampled on.  If your relationship is about how-your-relationship-doesn’t-work, and you see no improvement, then your healthiest move may be to end it.  You are entitled to more, and if the passive-aggressive in your life cannot or will not give it, seek your happiness elsewhere.  Again, it means sizing up the situation realistically – knowing what he does and does not give to the relationship, assessing the real value of his promises to change.”

from “Living With the Passive Aggressive Man”  (link at right)

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5 Responses to “What If No Approach Works?”

  1. Always follow the path that feeds your soul, stand strong against the North wind, and be the beautiful person that you are.

  2. 2 years after my divorce I came across this information that changed everything for me. Go to the bottom of my Home page, to favorite links, and ckick on Alison Armstrong’s link.

  3. And the other is Byron Katie’s work, found in the same place.

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