Monthly Archives: April 2012

$8.77

So, for eight dollars, seventy-seven cents, and a trip to Lowe’s Home Center, I, single-handedly (o.k., so I used both hands) fixed the dripping water in the girls’ bathtub. The hot water has been dripping continually through the spout for … Continue reading

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feeling beaten

I feel beaten.  (My apologies to those of you who actually have been physically beaten; I never have.)  I feel belittled, stupid, worthless.  I feel the life sucked out of me.  I want to scream and kick and throw things.  … Continue reading

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The sex thing again

When I got into bed tonight, he asked me if I ever wanted sex.  I was quiet for a minute and then I told him the truth:  pretty much all the time. He told me that if I wanted sex, … Continue reading

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Not strong moments.

I’m reading a really good book by Marcus Buckingham called “Find Your Strongest Life – What the Happiest and Most Successful Women do Differently.” One of the things he talks about is finding your “strong moments,”  times in your day … Continue reading

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non-communication – part 2

I’d like to quote from “Living With the Passive Aggressive Man.”   I think these paragraphs completely describe what I wrote about in my recent post “non-communication.” “Marriage to a passive-aggressive man can be a solitary experience, where you feel as … Continue reading

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tone of voice

Last night, he came in and said that his mom wasn’t doing so well, that she was getting weaker.  (She has cancer.)   And then, in the exact same tone of voice, with exactly the same intensity, he said that he … Continue reading

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non-communication

“When communication breaks down in a marriage, no matter the cause, it is only a matter of time before divorce occurs.”  – from  “The Grief Recovery Handbook.” I feel like essentially all the conversations in our marriage are pretty much … Continue reading

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Not seasonal anymore

Yesterday, my manager told me that I wouldn’t be laid off this summer, if I didn’t want to be. So, I guess that means I now have a full time job. I haven’t had a full time paying job since … Continue reading

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Just venting.

O.K., so I had a bad day at work.  It was very busy at the store.  I am the only official cashier, but thankfully there are 2 – 3 others who can also cashier and other employees will often answer … Continue reading

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Forget Thriving Just Survive

The following is a post by Dan Rockwell of Leadership Freak. Forget Thriving Just Survive It’s unrealistic and foolish to think you’ll always thrive. Sometimes just making it is enough. Dennis N. T. Perkins, author of, “Leading at the Edge,” did … Continue reading

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