Loved?

Posted on April 2, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

If he truly, really truly loved me, would I feel loved?  Would I know in my inner-most being that I was loved?  Or is he right, that my life experiences have conditioned me to not accept love?

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3 Responses to Loved?

  1. quantumphysica says:
    April 2, 2012 at 10:20 am

    I don’t know. I’m afraid I can’t answer that.
    Maybe you have to figure out what a person would have to do you if he really loved you. Make a list of those things. What would make you FEEL loved?
    If you figure that out, you have a start…
    *hugs* Take care!

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  2. A Single Parent's Life says:
    April 2, 2012 at 12:32 pm

    I think that you are very much able to feel love if love is there. I think that once one person puts another threw so much hurt and pain there comes a point that you can forgive that person but you can’t forget and you can’t have a relationship with them. You lose respect and love for them for what they have put you threw. I thought the same thing would I ever feel love again will I know if I do. It is all part of the abuse they make you feel that way and feel that you should love them now that they are “changing” things to get you to second guess yourself and stay. Because now he changed but I don’t love him so it must be me and it must be my fault. Its not you or your fault and you are able to love and feel loved. I have to say I have not felt so loved as much as I have the last few weeks. I have a new friend and I don’t know what it is I just feel so good and so loved when I am around them. I laugh all the time and always smiling. We were both at my friends house last night hanging out letting the kids play and talking. She kept saying I have not seen you smile and laugh so much in the two years I have known you and you just seem so much happier and together and more up beat. She had been pushing for me to stay with my soon to be ex and try to work things out. We started talking right about the time things were coming to an end with us and she just couldn’t understand why because how nice soon to be ex was when they were around. She said now she sees.

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  3. Paula says:
    April 3, 2012 at 2:40 pm

    The unloveable say stuff like that to cover up their darkness. Humans (normal humans) were born to love and be loved. If you don’t feel love, you probably aren’t getting it. Because even if you blocked love, you would sense the love you were blocking. It’s really that simple. Love can be felt even if we aren’t ready to accept it.

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