Last night I asked him if we could go to a marriage counselor.
He said he wanted us to do the workbook in the back of the book, “How We Love.”
I said, o.k.
So, did he answer my question, can we go to a marriage counselor?
Yes, he did.
The answer is: no.
I’m not going to ask him again. Period. If I mention thinking about asking him again to go to counseling, remind me of what I say here!
I’m not going to ask him to work on the workbook. If he brings it up, I will work on it with him. But I am not going to bring it up. If I mean anything to him, if the marriage means anything to him, maybe he’ll do something. But I guess the track-record is that so far he hasn’t been motivated enough to actually make some changes in his daily life.
Just like he put a tarp on the leaking roof instead of actually fixing the leak, he puts a “tarp,” in the form of placating words, over our marriage rather than actually doing anything to help improve the marriage.