Monthly Archives: August 2012

being a buffer

Yesterday, about the time I got off work, my  younger daughter called me to tell me that her car wouldn’t start.  So, after picking up my kitty from the vet (another story) and taking him home, I started up towards … Continue reading

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It’s quiet right now

It’s quiet right now. My older daughter is in another state for college, so there can be no more conflict there.  The car is hers now and she has her own car insurance so there can’t be any conflict about … Continue reading

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Ranting again

This is just a little rant and I think I’ve ranted about it before. But it just bugs me when people make excuses for him. I have a very nice friend who knows that my marriage is not that good.  … Continue reading

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A milestone

Today, I feel like, is a milestone in my life.  My younger daughter passed her driver’s test, so now she has her driver’s license.  My older daughter moves into her own apartment in another state, far away.  (O.K., so I … Continue reading

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being nice?

He’s being nice. Last night, he ran the dishwasher.  I don’t think he has ever run the dishwasher.  Not since my brother-in-law put it in for me.   He took out the trash last night.  He rarely takes out the trash.  … Continue reading

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Trust

“How is trust built?  Open communication; willingness to share; consistency in words, actions, and behavior over time; and reliability in following through on the agreements of the relationship, just to name a few examples.  It’s ironic that, for most relationships, … Continue reading

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discouraged

I feel discouraged. I feel discouraged about making enough money to support myself.  I don’t know if it is even possible for me. I feel discouraged about how much clutter I have, how much stuff I need to get rid … Continue reading

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note to self

It is not irrational to want to be loved. Everyone needs to be loved.  Everyone.  Including you. If you are hungry and you go into a restaurant, expecting to find food, and they have no food to serve you, does … Continue reading

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“passive aggressive won’t marry me”

I was looking at the search terms that were used by people who found my blog. One phrase caught my eye: “passive aggressive won’t marry me” Sweetie, if he is passive aggressive you don’t want him to marry you.  Run.  Run … Continue reading

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Double standard

So, why is it that when I am asked to do something, anything, it is expected that I take care of it?  No questions asked.  Buy something, deliver something, call someone, sign something, wash something, iron something, fix something, be … Continue reading

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