It’s quiet right now.
My older daughter is in another state for college, so there can be no more conflict there. The car is hers now and she has her own car insurance so there can’t be any conflict about that. She is not here to mow the grass so there can’t be conflict about that, either. She doesn’t owe him any money, so there can’t be conflict about that.
My younger daughter is in college, too, even though she still lives at home. There wasn’t any interaction between her and my husband anyway. I’m paying for the car she uses, so he presumable won’t be bothering her about that.
I’m at work all day, so I really don’t see him much.
He tells me about his day. He washes the dishes some. He has taken out the trash once or twice. Sometimes he asks me about our daughters.
But it’s really pretty empty.
I can’t talk to him about the things I want to talk to him about because I know it would be pointless. I would just end up frustrated.
We don’t make love. I’m sure he would be glad to have sex, but I just can’t do that. Although sometimes I think about it. But then he says something inane and I can’t bear the thought of having sex with him.
I was going to say, he’s not acting in a passive aggressive way right now, but I guess that’s not quite true.
A passive aggressive person will not develop a close relationship, will not make love. So, even though at this particular moment, he is not doing anything blatantly mean, there is nothing going on that is actually building the relationship.
Sometimes I think about asking him again to go to counseling. But I guess if he actually wanted to go to counseling, he would bring it up.
So, I just cry a lot and pray for deliverance, while I work to save money and try to get rid of my clutter so I can move at some point.