I went to see Julie, the therapist, today. Talking to her is SO good!
I had made the appointment last week, before this past week-end when I made my decision. Before the final straw. Hmmm…..
Anyhow, she said something very interesting. She said, he is really showing where he stands on things, isn’t he.
I hadn’t really thought about it that way before. But he is. Not helping our daughter with a car. Not paying health insurance for our daughters. Not going to counseling. Not stopping sex when I am crying.
Inaction is a form of action. By refusing to do these things, he is, indeed, taking a stand.
Evidently, a stand against me. Against our daughters.
It was reinforcing to me for her to say that. Talking with her always helps me to have a little more clarity.
She also told me that she was proud of me for all the steps I had taken in the months since we last talked.