Monthly Archives: October 2012

paralyzing fear

I am speaking tomorrow night at a fund-raising event for Go Red For Women.  It will be held in the three-story penthouse on top of a down-town office building, the home of a very rich lady.  I will be one … Continue reading

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dirty water

I feel really stupid writing this right now, given the flooding and damage from the huge hurricane.  I know many people aren’t even able to be in their homes right now and when they do return home, they may be … Continue reading

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random stuff

Not this past week-end, but the week-end before, my picture was in the newspaper!  The story was in a Sunday insert and it was about the program that I took earlier in the year.  There was a picture of me … Continue reading

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The UPS Man

O.K.  So this post isn’t really about the UPS man.  Although he is another one of those friendly, energetic people who have crossed my path with whom I like being friends.  I see him almost every day because he is … Continue reading

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the lake

I went to the lake early this morning. Rather than lying in bed, dreading another horrible situation about sex, I went to the lake. Rather than lying in bed, resenting that I had to get the house ready for guests … Continue reading

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Domestic Violence

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Domestic violence.  A woman with a black eye, with a body covered with bruises, maybe a broken arm, maybe a bloody face. Horrible.  Unacceptable.  Obvious. And the violence of words.  The abusive, belittling, demeaning … Continue reading

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his needs vs my pain

Yesterday morning: him:  I think we should have sex. me:  Why? him:  Because we should, because it’s good for us, because we’re supposed to, and you’re my wife. me:  It makes me cry, it hurts me so much, it makes … Continue reading

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emotions

So much anger and frustration. Fear.  Sadness. I feel so insane.  I don’t know which way is up or which way is down.  Don’t know what to think or even how to feel.  Or rather, how to acknowledge my feelings. … Continue reading

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bored

Yesterday, I went to talk to Julie, the therapist, again. I told her about feeling more dead than alive, about feeling like I was just going through the motions of living, but not really feeling alive.  She said I was … Continue reading

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what children need

I did not write this.  It was written by a journalist, Sharon Randall. ~~~~~~~~~~ It’s a part of Las Vegas seldom seen by tourists who would rather spend their time and money in the neon glow of the Strip. We … Continue reading

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