Monthly Archives: December 2012

missing co-dependence

I know this is going to sound really crazy, but I miss being co-dependent.  I miss thinking that I can fix the marriage.  I miss thinking that if I just do that one right thing, say that one right thing, then everything … Continue reading

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“…loving a dark soul”

from “Paula’s Pontifications.”  Please visit her blog. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ If you’re stuck in a relationship this holiday season with a dark soul who expects more than he/she deserves, don’t give that person anything you feel obligated to give, including your love. … Continue reading

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about the UPS man

This is bothering me and I can’t get it out of my head, so I am going to write about it. I’ve mentioned the UPS man before. (See post.)  He’s nice, friendly, tall, kinda good-looking, nice, smiles at me.  But … Continue reading

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maybe it’s me…

Maybe nobody could love me. Maybe I’m not enough. Maybe there can’t be any more in a relationship for me than this emptiness. Maybe I’m not lovable. Maybe it’s me…..

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Feelings

“It’s okay to have and feel our feelings — all of them. “Years into recovery, we may still be battling with ourselves about this issue.  Of all the prohibitions we’ve lived with, this one is potentially the most dangerous and … Continue reading

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Sandy Hook

It hurts too deeply to be comprehended, to be expressed.  It is too hard to be endured. I look at faces of those dear, sweet children now showing up on the news sites and it is unfathomable. I wish I … Continue reading

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good for you

So often I want to say “Good for you.” “Read this book – it’ll transform your marriage.” “Just do this one thing – he can’t but help fall in love with you.” “Watch this movie together.” “All things are possible … Continue reading

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don’t even know

At the end of work, I was – yet again -dreading coming home. I was wondering what it would be like to come home to a peaceful, loving evening, instead of a stress-filled one, wondering what it would be like … Continue reading

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The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships

Published on June 5, 2012 by Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. in Fulfillment at Any Age Thinking positively about your partner. Having positive thoughts about your partner means that you focus on the good, not the bad, in your partner’s personal … Continue reading

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fooling myself?

Sometimes I wonder if I am just fooling myself that I will ever leave, that I will ever be able to afford to leave, that I will have the courage to leave.

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