Monthly Archives: March 2013

I need….

I just need a hug.  I just need to be held for a long time and told that it’s going to be ok.  That I’m ok. I need to be reassured that I am lovable, and worthy, and that it will … Continue reading

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forgiveness

Last evening, he said that I don’t forgive him.  (He has said this before.)  I told him that I do forgive him, but that he keeps doing the same things over and over again and so I don’t trust him. … Continue reading

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5 Signs of Abusive Relationships

I did not write this.  It is from Anger Management Chicago. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ More than one-third of women in America experience some form of relationship abuse during their lives. You might reject the idea that you’re in an abusive relationship because … Continue reading

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“disregard any flack”

Background:  I’ve been reading “Codependent No More” and “The Language of Letting Go” and working harder at analyzing my thoughts and reactions in an effort to reduce my co-dependency. Let’s see how this plays out: Yesterday, I decided to have … Continue reading

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from “Tell Me About It”

(*”Tell Me About It” is a column in the newspaper, like “Dear Abby”) Advice from a reader: ~On being the only one making an effort to save the marriage: If someone really is considering leaving the marriage, one technique is … Continue reading

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The first day of spring

Today is the first day of spring!  Whew! Anyhow, today I attended a Fred Pryor Seminar about becoming an Outstanding Receptionist.  I like to think that I am already an outstanding receptionist, but I really enjoyed the seminar anyway.  I … Continue reading

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content or complacent?

Last evening, as I was driving home, I thought about the wrinkles that are beginning and the strands of grey hair that are showing up one by one and I thought that maybe I should give up on ever being … Continue reading

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Trusting Ourselves

On March 13th, I wrote a post about “Trust.” The March 14th reading in “The Language of Letting Go,” is: Trusting Ourselves Trust can be one of the most confusing concepts in recovery.  Who do we trust?  For what? The … Continue reading

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he’s being nice today

Today, he’s being nice to me. He was going to take me to the doctor this morning when I felt awful.  (I didn’t go – I went to work instead – and after a few hours, I started feeling better.) … Continue reading

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I changed my name!

I finally did it!  I changed my profile name. I’ve been thinking recently about how to better not be a victim. I think for many, many years in my marriage, the thought of being a victim didn’t even enter my … Continue reading

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