Trusting Ourselves

On March 13th, I wrote a post about “Trust.”

The March 14th reading in “The Language of Letting Go,” is:

Trusting Ourselves

Trust can be one of the most confusing concepts in recovery.  Who do we trust?  For what?

The most important trust issue we face is learning to trust ourselves. The most detrimental thing that’s happened to us is that we came to believe we couldn’t trust ourselves.

There will be some who tell us we cannot trust ourselves, we are off base and out of whack.  There are those who would benefit by our mistrusting ourselves.

Fear and doubt are our enemies.  Panic is our enemy.  Confusion is our opposition.

Self-trust is a healing gift we can give ourselves.  How do we acquire it?  We learn it.  What do we do about our mistakes, about those times we thought we could trust ourselves but were wrong?  We accept them, and trust ourselves anyway.

We know what is best for us.  We know what is right for us.  If we are wrong, if we need to change our mind, we will be guided into that – but only by trusting where we are today.

We can look to to others for support and reinforcement, but trust in ourselves is essential.

Do not trust fear.  Do not trust panic.  We can trust ourselves, stand in our own light.  We have it now.  Already.  We have all the light we need for today.  And tomorrow’s light shall be given to us then.

Trust ourselves, and we will know whom to trust.  Trust ourselves, and we will know what to do. When we feel we absolutely cannot trust ourselves, trust that God will guide us into truth.

God, help me let go of fear, doubt, and confusion – the enemies of self-trust.  Help me go forward in peace and confidence.  Help me grow in trust for myself and You, one day at a time, one experience at a time.

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3 Responses to Trusting Ourselves

  1. Lyne says:

    i just found your blog and i read every single post, i see myself so much in your experience. Often asked myself the question: “why do I stay, why do I do this to myself”. At some point, trusting ourselves is the only thing to do. Remembering that we are not alone in the world to go through the same experience, the same struggles and ultimately we are many voices trusting ourselves, supporting ourselves, therefore it should be an easy thing to attain. My difficulty lies in the fact that for over 20 years, this pattern of life with my PA husband has been the focus, has been the existence and my reality, was all consuming. Living in fantasy was my only escape. Fantasizing that some day, I would have the life I so craved for. Imagining scenarios that saw me happy and healthy with and without a partner. Even though trusting myself is the very best thing and the only right thing to do for me, it’s harder than it looks but I’m getting there, little by little day by day. Next week, we see a marriage councellor for the first time in 20 years but my mind is made up, it’s 20 years too late. Wish me luck.

    • Thank you for your comment. And thank you for reading my blog! Pretty much my whole marriage I focused on the marriage and trying to make the marriage better. I didn’t realize until only fairly recently that I couldn’t fix the marrriage.
      You are so right – trusting myself is very hard! Because what if I am wrong? Even when evidence stares me in the face, I still doubt myself. Sometimes I wonder if I am lying to myself about actually leaving one day. I can very easily see myself on the other side; I just don’t know how I am going to get there.
      I SO understand the “20 years too late.” Hopefully the counsellor will be wise enough to understand, too. Good luck, though. And let me know how it goes.

  2. jenlynn401 says:

    Reblogged this on Life and Living and commented:
    This is a really good post that i read on a friends blog and wanted to share it here. It makes a lot of sense.

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