Monthly Archives: June 2013

wanting to be cared for…

I want to be loved and cared for, but this, too, makes me feel crazy on a couple of different levels. I feel bad about wanting to be loved and cared for because I haven’t yet figured out which part … Continue reading

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I asked him to move out

This morning, he said, I wish you wouldn’t assume bad things about me, like that I left the animal carcasses in the path and that I burned out the light bulb.  (A light bulb in the bathroom was burned out … Continue reading

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Father’s Day ~ not

I wasn’t going to write a post on Father’s Day.  I had nothing to say. My own Dad died when I was twenty-one.  That was a long time ago. My husband isn’t a father to our daughters.  Not at all. … Continue reading

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crumb, crumb, crumb,….

Okay.  So hafta write. The one who does/doesn’t wink at me will occasionally stop by and talk to me.  And he just did.  We discussed my needing to buy a new laptop for my daughter. And no, it wasn’t flirty … Continue reading

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quite a conversation

Last night, he asked me if our older daughter had found a job for the summer. I told him that I didn’t care to discuss her with him. He asked why not. I said because he wasn’t a daddy to … Continue reading

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stupid me

Last week-end, he went camping with a friend. Today, we, and another couple, were at another friend’s house.  All of these people also are friends with the guy my husband went camping with, although the one he went camping with … Continue reading

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Saying no

This morning, I didn’t give him a hug. Every morning before he goes to work, he gives me a quick hug and a peck of a kiss and says he loves me and that he hopes that I will have … Continue reading

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I keep trying….

Wednesday I texted him and asked him if he would please use the computer early in the evening, so I could have it later in the evening, because I would be home late [movie date with my daughter] and I … Continue reading

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listening ~ or not

Last evening, I went out into the field to cut some of the wild daisy-like flowers that are blooming out there. A young lady here at work, Kristen, is getting married tomorrow, and some of us are contributing flowers and greenery … Continue reading

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wanting to matter/codependency

I want to matter. I know this is part of codependency, feeling like I want to matter, that I want to make a difference, that I want to feel appreciated. So often at work, I feel like it wouldn’t make … Continue reading

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