Monthly Archives: September 2013

good fences make good neighbors

When I was twenty-one, my dad died.  My mom used a large part of his life insurance money to make a down payment on a piece of property that had two houses on it.  She and my siblings lived in … Continue reading

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I wonder…

I feel like I have become a terrible person in this relationship and I wonder if I will carry the “habits” that I have with my husband into another relationship, if I ever get to have another relationship. My blog … Continue reading

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life-destroying vs. life-giving

Last night, I got a massage. Until this week, I’ve only had three professional massages in my life.  (See post.) I LOVE getting a massage!  My goal in life is to be able to afford to get a massage whenever … Continue reading

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spoiled brat

Last night when I am just about asleep: him:  I think you should have sex with me. (silence) me:  The last time I had sex with you, I cried all day.  (See post.) (silence) him:  I really need to have … Continue reading

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nothing new

Tonight we went out with some friends. He did most of the talking.  Of course.  He seems interesting and funny and witty. But in reality, he’s just showing off.  It’s all about him. I feel kind of lonely.  Not really … Continue reading

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In the eye of the beholder…

I don’t look good in pictures.  Seriously.  I don’t.  Sometimes I think I look okay in the mirror, but I almost never look good in pictures. My daughter agrees.  She thinks I am so pretty, but she can never get … Continue reading

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my husband is a jerk

This morning, I went for a walk with a girlfriend. (When I had told my husband I was going for a walk, he asked if he could come, too.  I said, yes.*  He asked me where I was going to … Continue reading

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Toxic Relationships: A Health Hazard

by Sherrie Bourg Carter, Psy.D. Original Link Health consciousness is becoming an increasingly important part of many people’s lives. More than ever before, we, as a society, are paying attention to nutrition labels, fitness, organic alternatives, safe and toxin-free environments, etc. Yet, many health conscious … Continue reading

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just rambling…

I’m feeling lonely tonight.  Not a needy lonely.  Just an empty lonely.  Like there should be someone in my life for me to love and to be loved back. I don’t know how to explain it. “Conversation” with him is … Continue reading

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a texted conversation…

him:       Hope you are having a good day me:         Not really. him:       I wish I could have given you a hug before you left this morning.  Remember you are important, smart, beautiful, and funny, too. me:          Really?  Then why do I … Continue reading

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