Last night, he went to pay the bills and discovered that I had taken the money out of the joint checking account. (See post.)
He didn’t like that.
He asked me why I did that.
I told him that I needed to be sure that my daughter and I had money for food.
He said that he would make sure we had money for food.
I told him that when I needed to buy something, the money wasn’t there [because he had cancelled the credit card].
He said that he gave me money.
I told him that he hadn’t given me any money at the time I felt I needed to withdraw money from the account.
He said that he hadn’t seen me.
I told him that he saw me Wednesday night and Thursday night and Friday night. He didn’t give me any cash until Saturday night.
He then said that he needed the money that I took out so he could pay the bills.
I told him that when I needed the money, it wasn’t there.
He said that if the money didn’t go back into the account, it would overdraw the account and there would be fees charged.
Anyhow, there was nothing more to say about it.
I did put the money back into the joint checking account.
Yeah. I know.
I asked him again about why he cancelled the credit card.
He said he was mad. He said that he loves me and cares about me and tries to patient with me, but that he reached his limit.
I asked him what he was going to do the next time he was mad. He said that he would talk to me about. I said, For the first time in twenty-six years???
He also said that he cancelled the credit card because he thought I was running around with someone.
I told him that I wasn’t running around with anyone. I told him that someone invited me to lunch and I accepted.
He asked me if I went out to lunch often.
I told him that was the first time I had ever been to lunch.
I asked him who told him I had been out to lunch.
He wouldn’t tell me.
It really struck me how he felt it was acceptable to cancel the credit card out of spite, and yet, it was not acceptable for me to withdraw money to protect myself.
It struck me, too, when he refused to tell me which of his relatives told him about seeing me. Why is he protecting whoever it was who told him when he claims that our marriage is so important to him? He is yet again putting his family above me. I don’t know. I guess I should be used to that, too.
I am still shaken by what he did. I am generally used to his tactics, but this one -cancelling the credit card – is a new one.
I want out of here so badly.