Recently I read this on The Snowball Effect:
“Emotions are temporary. They do pass. Ride the wave of emotions without reacting at all. You will, without a doubt, make a wiser decision about how to handle the situation.” ~Kristin Barton Cuthriell
The thought that emotions are temporary and that emotions do not define me has come up a number of times in things that I have read recently. So I have been thinking about this.
So often, like way too much, I feel like all I am doing in my life is waiting for the emotion to pass.
Waiting for the sadness, the pain, the anger, the frustration, the fear, the whatever, to pass.
There is rarely happiness and it goes away pretty quickly, so that one isn’t really an issue. I do try to relish in the happiness when it happens. But it doesn’t last long.
So if all I am doing in my life is riding waves of emotion, waiting for them to go away, what is my life? Where is my life? Yes, I understand not making decisions based on emotion. That makes sense. For years I have made it a practice to never make decisions, even as “simple” as buying a pair of shoes, when I am “hormonally challenged.” I’ve learned that it never goes well.
But I struggle the other three weeks of the month, too. How do I get beyond this? How do I feel alive rather than just waiting for some feeling to pass? Is this making any sense?
Yes, I try to deal with the emotions. I think about where in my past they come from. I write them out to help release them. I give myself permission to cry and I try to say comforting things to myself to get past the overwhelming emotion, whichever one it may be.
But how do I get to a more even place, where I don’t always feel like I am battling emotion? Where I actually feel alive?