Monthly Archives: September 2014

counseling…

Several weeks ago,  I wrote about talking to a realtor/pastor who works in my building who offered to counsel my husband and me.  (see this post) Well, my husband and I met him for lunch today. It was awful. It didn’t … Continue reading

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I slept in the living room last night

I slept in the living room last night. I asked him to, but, well, you know… You know, when he starts accusing me, the thing is, he’s not completely wrong. Last night, after I had asked him to sleep in … Continue reading

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It’s me.

“You don’t know what you want so I have a hard time giving it to you.” Oh, and apparently, he is compassionate and  I’m just too stupid to realized it.  (He didn’t call me stupid.  That is my sarcasm.) He … Continue reading

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“prison dinner”

Last night, my husband made dinner. I told my daughter that the food was ready and she could come get some food. My husband and I sat down at the table to eat. In case you don’t know, my daughter … Continue reading

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first date…

This morning he reminded me that today is the anniversary of our first date – twenty-nine years ago. Wow – that’s a long time! He asked me if I wanted to go out for dinner tonight. I told him I … Continue reading

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later that evening…

So my previous post was about Sunday afternoon. Sunday evening, well, Sunday night, as I was getting ready for bed, I checked my email. He had sent me an email with the subject, “an interesting article.”  And the only thing … Continue reading

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another “discussion”

We had a “discussion” this afternoon. I was studying for my final exam outside under “my” tree.  About mid-afternoon he came and asked me if I wanted to go see the new barn of somebody he knew and pick up … Continue reading

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a lesson for me to learn

I’ve been taking a online class. Several months ago, my supervisor at work asked me if I wanted to take this class and the company has payed for it.  (It is NOT a cheap class!) The class is the basics of … Continue reading

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“A Cry for Justice”

Recently, through some of my readers, I have become aware of the website “A Cry for Justice.” Whenever I read things posted on that site, I start feeling really shaky and really scared and almost tearful.  I don’t know why … Continue reading

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a new phone

I woke up depressed again.  No surprise there. (I wonder what it is like to function without depression?  What would that feel like?  How do people do that?  What would it be like to be naturally positive and optimistic?  What … Continue reading

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