first date…

This morning he reminded me that today is the anniversary of our first date – twenty-nine years ago.

Wow – that’s a long time!

He asked me if I wanted to go out for dinner tonight.

I told him I would see how I felt.

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6 Responses to first date…

  1. newshoes123 says:

    That was a good answer… stay strong.

    • I am working on being better at setting boundaries and not saying “yes” or “no” because I think I should. I’m trying to actually think about what I really want, what serves ME best. – Not necessarily in a selfish way, but in a healthy way. Thanks for the encouragement!

  2. GainingStrength says:

    When he told you “today is the anniversary of our first date” did he then engage you in conversation reminiscing about that first date? Did he have happy/fond memories that he wanted to share with you? Did he buy you 29 roses? No….he wants sex. He tried to make you feel guilty so you would give him sex without making him feel bad. What a jerk!

    My abuser used to buy me flowers for our anniversary and would smile and sit back and wait for the praise from me. He was a good boy, look what he did, you’re my favorite! :) LOL When I stopped praising him, he stopped the flowers. He also didn’t reminisce or share happy/fond memories when he presented me with the flowers. Nope, maybe a peck on the lips (his version of a kiss full of love!) and wait for his praise. LOL Oh what these abusers think passes for affection.

  3. You know, he said he would come home at 6:00 and then we would go out if I wanted to. He didn’t come until 8:30!!!! So fixed and ate my own dinner before he came. Tonight he is making dinner and there are …. roses on the table! He said they were to make up for serving me processed cheese on our first date (picnic lunch). Seriously, I didn’t remember the processed cheese! I just remember the many years of frustration since then!!!

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