In all the years I’ve been in the church I’m in, I don’t ever remember domestic violence being addressed by the church. That’s not to say it hasn’t been addressed, but I just don’t remember ever hearing it.
And divorce was a thing, while not forbidden, that was rarely discussed and then only in hushed tones.
So it is hard to be in a situation that 1) is difficult to explain as the aggression is passive and not so easily recognizable and 2) is not openly addressed by my church.
I did a google search of “domestic violence in the Bible” and found some links that were comforting to me. I’m not affiliated with any of these, but I wanted to share them, both so I could easily refer back to them and because they might be helpful to someone else who also needs that encouragement.
They are not listed in any particular order.
Also, I found this quote that I wanted to share: “‘many victims believe clergy have the most potential to help them,’ in fact ‘[clergy] are too often the least helpful and sometimes even harmful.'” (Link to full article.)