Category Archives: money

sleeping alone tonight

His mom is in the hospital again. She has been in horrible, horrible pain.  Hopefully, by now, something they have given her will have helped lessen the pain some. She was in so much pain that my husband said she … Continue reading

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well that was just generous

He gave me an extra $40 for Thanksgiving. Now, maybe my sisters and my sister-in-law could do Thanksgiving for 14 people for $40, but extreme frugality is not one of my strengths. I guess I’ll be paying for Thanksgiving. But … Continue reading

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health insurance

My employer pays for my health insurance.  I pay for health insurance for my daughter’s through my employer. He is self-employed and has paid for his own insurance.  His insurance plan is coming to an end, so he has to … Continue reading

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counseling…

Several weeks ago,  I wrote about talking to a realtor/pastor who works in my building who offered to counsel my husband and me.  (see this post) Well, my husband and I met him for lunch today. It was awful. It didn’t … Continue reading

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“I try to be nice”

What does “I try to be nice” actually mean? Last night, I lost it. I was crying and crying because I felt like I really couldn’t take it anymore.  He came in the kitchen and asked if he could do … Continue reading

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financial support?

My van needs work.  The estimate was close to two thousand dollars. He said he would pay half of it. I already got the brakes taken care of, and he did indeed pay for half of that. Now I need … Continue reading

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a credit card

He got a credit card advertisement in the mail. It is for Visa Black and the advertisement is a big black card, maybe 5 x 7, so it looks really impressive. For a couple of days, he carried this thing … Continue reading

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not involved

My daughter is in New York City! At this very moment, she is attending Les Mis.   I’m sure she is absolutely loving it!  And that is an understatement!  (link about Les Mis) Did I ever tell you that she … Continue reading

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Awards ~ and confessions

I have a confession to make.  I tend to be a procrastinator. In the past number of months, I have been given several blogging awards. I have felt honored and touched each time this happens. But I have procrastinated about … Continue reading

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Waiting for emotions to pass…

Recently I read this on The Snowball Effect: “Emotions are temporary.  They do pass.  Ride the wave of emotions without reacting at all.  You will, without a doubt, make a wiser decision about how to handle the situation.” ~Kristin Barton … Continue reading

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