Tag Archives: money

well that was just generous

He gave me an extra $40 for Thanksgiving. Now, maybe my sisters and my sister-in-law could do Thanksgiving for 14 people for $40, but extreme frugality is not one of my strengths. I guess I’ll be paying for Thanksgiving. But … Continue reading

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health insurance

My employer pays for my health insurance.  I pay for health insurance for my daughter’s through my employer. He is self-employed and has paid for his own insurance.  His insurance plan is coming to an end, so he has to … Continue reading

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“I try to be nice”

What does “I try to be nice” actually mean? Last night, I lost it. I was crying and crying because I felt like I really couldn’t take it anymore.  He came in the kitchen and asked if he could do … Continue reading

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financial support?

My van needs work.  The estimate was close to two thousand dollars. He said he would pay half of it. I already got the brakes taken care of, and he did indeed pay for half of that. Now I need … Continue reading

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a credit card

He got a credit card advertisement in the mail. It is for Visa Black and the advertisement is a big black card, maybe 5 x 7, so it looks really impressive. For a couple of days, he carried this thing … Continue reading

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money….

I hate having to ask him for money.  I hate it. Maybe I will ask him if he will always leave a stash of cash in a place where I can get it when I need to so I don’t … Continue reading

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What it’s like right now…

Nothing. Just nothing. Empty. When he didn’t give me any more money for Thanksgiving (see post), I pretty much stopped talking to him.  At all.  Period. Not there were any great conversations anyway. He still talks to me. He tells … Continue reading

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paying cash and the last straw

I am a fan of Dave Ramsey. For those who may not know, Dave Ramsey (link) advocates getting rid of credit cards and paying cash to get out of debt and to stay out of debt. I think that’s a … Continue reading

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vehicle registration

Weeks ago, when he was telling me all the things I had to pay for (see post), he said I had to pay to get the van inspected and to pay for the vehicle registration renewal. So, I took the … Continue reading

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my new position at work

Friday, a week ago, I was offered a new position at work! (I didn’t write about it sooner because I had to do some detective work to be sure my husband still doesn’t know about my blog.) I have been … Continue reading

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