His mom has bone cancer that is in remission.
Recently, she started having intense pain in her back again, so she finally went back to the hospital.
The cancer hadn’t returned, but another vertebrae had fractured. (Her vertebrae are very fragile because of the cancer.) The fractured vertebrae was putting pressure on a disk and the disk is putting pressure on a nerve, causing the intense pain. Or at least that is what I have been told.
There is a procedure they will do to “fix” the fracture in the vertebrae. She could have had the procedure done at another location a couple of days ago, except for one thing. Because of that one thing, she has to wait a few more days to have the procedure done at the hospital where she is, because of appointment availability.
And that one thing? His dad made a stink about the expense of the ambulance to take her to the other location. It all comes out of their insurance deductible, one way or another. So because of his pig-headedness, she has to spend almost another week in intense pain. (The pain medication they are giving her still isn’t enough to combat the pain.)
My husband can see that his dad is selfish, and mean to his mom. He sees that his dad does whatever he wants, regardless of what his mom wants. He sees that his dad says that what he is doing is for his mom, but is, in reality, for himself. For example, his dad wants to buy a van, so he says it is for my husband’s mom, but she doesn’t want a van. She is scared of vans.
My husband can see these things in his dad.
But I was too scared to ask him if he could see the same thing in himself.