Monthly Archives: July 2012

On the local news…

I’m very tired, but I really wanted to write tonight. I started a new job last week.  It’s “only” a six week temp job, but it pays half again what my seasonal job did, and it is a step closer … Continue reading

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Codependent and Narcissist

This is an excerpt from the book “The Human Magnet Syndrome,” written by Ross Rosenberg. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The “dance” of codependency requires two people: the pleaser/fixer and the taker/controller. This inherently dysfunctional dance can only happen with one partner who is a … Continue reading

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the shirt conversation

He walked into the room, carrying one of his white dress shirts. him:  Is this a work shirt? me:  Does it say “work” in the collar? him:  No, but see how frayed it is. me:  I wrote “work” in the … Continue reading

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I feel he hates me

I feel like he hates me. And why does this matter to me?  Well, let’s see….  I got married, thinking I would be in a loving relationship.  I want to love and to be loved.  I still want to be … Continue reading

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Car update

I asked him straight out last night if he was going to give the car to K.  He said, yes.  I said, give or sell?  He said, give. I told him we need to go ahead and get the title … Continue reading

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Moving on workshop

Last evening, I went to a workshop at the Women’s Resource Center presented by an attorney about the legal aspects of divorce and separation in the state in which I live. There are only two grounds for divorce in this … Continue reading

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Car crazy

A little background:  My older daughter, K,  is moving to another state next month to go to a university.  My younger daughter, J, will be starting college at the local community college.  J will be living at home and driving … Continue reading

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Why passive aggressive behavior makes you feel crazy

So last night, I had a conversation with my husband that left me feeling crazy, absolutely insane.  (Note the subtitle on my blog:  the insanity of passive aggression.) I brought up that we had had a conversation Thursday night (see … Continue reading

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random stuff

My younger daughter is eighteen today.  I love her so much.  She’s just awesome.  She’ll start college in just over a month.  I’m so proud of her. My older daughter will start her junior year in college in just over … Continue reading

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Second Guessing

Was I mean?  Did I say the wrong thing?  Was I too harsh?  Should I have said something different?  Should I have said something more?  I don’t know. Yesterday morning he sent me an email (because I was still asleep), … Continue reading

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