Tag Archives: frustration

what’s your hell?

I’ve been wanting to ask that question for a long time now. Here’s my hell: Unrequited love. Putting time and energy into people and things that don’t love me back. Holding on to people and things that don’t love me … Continue reading

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weary

I’m weary. And I’m tired of being weary. I’m tired of trying to figure things out. Like the plants in the previous post. Am I critical because all the plants were not brought in?  If I brought it up to … Continue reading

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cold plants

I have a small, unheated greenhouse that I have some tender plants in this winter.  So far, it hasn’t gotten too cold for the plants in my greenhouse – which has been very cool!  (No pun intended.) While I was … Continue reading

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gets me every time

He’s been being nice.  Or, maybe I should say, helpful. You know, washing the dishes, taking out the trash, making dinner. (There is more I could add to both of those sentences, but I just too tired tonight.  I’ll try … Continue reading

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I’m still here

Hi. I’m still here. I’m still struggling. I’m still stuck. I’ve been going to the counselor and that is starting to help me, but I still have a long way to go. One thing I talked to him about was … Continue reading

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me and my big mouth

I signed up to give a speech in Toastmasters tomorrow. I’m really not ready for it, but I’m pretty sure I can wing it.  I’m fairly good at Table Topics, which is the part of Toastmasters where you speak “off … Continue reading

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I can’t see beyond this

I can’t see beyond this. I can’t see anyone loving me. I can’t see having a house that isn’t dilapidated. I can’t see not struggling with depression. I can’t see having a job that is more fulfilling for me. I … Continue reading

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well that was just generous

He gave me an extra $40 for Thanksgiving. Now, maybe my sisters and my sister-in-law could do Thanksgiving for 14 people for $40, but extreme frugality is not one of my strengths. I guess I’ll be paying for Thanksgiving. But … Continue reading

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counseling…

Several weeks ago,  I wrote about talking to a realtor/pastor who works in my building who offered to counsel my husband and me.  (see this post) Well, my husband and I met him for lunch today. It was awful. It didn’t … Continue reading

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I slept in the living room last night

I slept in the living room last night. I asked him to, but, well, you know… You know, when he starts accusing me, the thing is, he’s not completely wrong. Last night, after I had asked him to sleep in … Continue reading

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