Tag Archives: conversation

he found my blog

He said he was sorry to learn of my pain and turmoil. He said I was petty and judgmental. He said a lot of stuff quoting Dr. Laura’s book and defending “Love and Respect.” He said he wants me to … Continue reading

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conversation this morning…

He said I poisoned my daughters against him. (I didn’t. Period.)  He said they turned on him because he wasn’t perfect.  (No, they recognized that he was toxic and distanced themselves.) He said I should forgive him.  I told him … Continue reading

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coincidence?

One thing (of many) that I don’t like about living with a passive aggressive man is that it has made me suspicious. Yesterday, he wanted me to go visit his mom.  She is not doing well. I was having a … Continue reading

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emotional abuse

Last night, I made my “bed” in the living room and then took a shower.  When I went back in the living room to get into “bed,” he was there waiting for me. He told me that he wanted to … Continue reading

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“if you respected me…”

Last night, in bed: Him:  Will you make love with me tonight? silence Me: It makes me cry. silence Him, slightly pouty:  What do I have to do? silence Me, slowly:  I don’t know.   What does your book say? … Continue reading

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a bizarre comment

This morning, my husband started talking about the news story about actor Dimitri Diatchenko killing and eating his ex-girlfriend’s rabbit.  (See story here, if you really want to.) Years ago, we had dinner at the home of friends.  (This post … Continue reading

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here’s one…

Scene:  At night, in bed.  He has been moody, huffy, kind of slamming things a little, all evening. I can tell he is upset, but he hasn’t said anything.  Finally… Me:  Do you want to tell me what is bothering … Continue reading

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counseling…

Several weeks ago,  I wrote about talking to a realtor/pastor who works in my building who offered to counsel my husband and me.  (see this post) Well, my husband and I met him for lunch today. It was awful. It didn’t … Continue reading

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I slept in the living room last night

I slept in the living room last night. I asked him to, but, well, you know… You know, when he starts accusing me, the thing is, he’s not completely wrong. Last night, after I had asked him to sleep in … Continue reading

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later that evening…

So my previous post was about Sunday afternoon. Sunday evening, well, Sunday night, as I was getting ready for bed, I checked my email. He had sent me an email with the subject, “an interesting article.”  And the only thing … Continue reading

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