My appointment with the lawyer this morning went well.
She does free workshops about the legal aspects of divorce and separation in the state where I live. I’ve gone to her workshops probably about five times over the past year and half, so I was already familiar with her and with the laws in this state.
I don’t know that I learned anything new this morning, since I had been to her workshops, but I’m still glad I spent the time and money to meet with her. It was comforting to lay out my specifics, mainly about assets, and have her go over them with me.
Overall, her response to my marriage seemed to be “… and WHY are you still with him?” And that was even with me telling her very little of the actual marriage. She was really struck by the fact that he has no relationship with his daughters. She recognized – and said – that he seems to act like he is about ten years old. [No offense to ten-year-olds!]
She was also very encouraging. She said that to get to happiness, it is hard work. She said, you have to reach the top of the hill to find happiness; you aren’t going to find it down in the valley. And it is a hard climb to the top of the hill, but it is worth it.
Another time I’ll tell you what she said about light bulbs, but now I have to go to sleep.
Oh, and she said, which I already knew, that my next step is to find a place to live. So that’s my next big hurdle and now I am scared of that.
Thank you for all of your encouragement.