Category Archives: emotional abuse

internal conflict

He bought me a little plant that I like a lot.  It’s called String of Pearls and I had a gorgeous one when I lived in another state ten-plus years ago before we moved here. Then I finally found one … Continue reading

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things I’ve learned

I was outside, cleaning up in my garden a little.  (I have way too much stuff, even in the garden!!!!) And I was thinking. I will be fifty in another year and I was wondering what I had actually learned … Continue reading

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my supervisor

I got in trouble at work this past week. My supervisor took exception to some emails that I sent to her. I’ve worked for this company for over two and half years.  I’ve worked for this supervisor for over a year. … Continue reading

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After…

I think the thing that gets me most about what happened (see post) is that, on Friday night, after I said, if you loved me, you wouldn’t ask me to do something that hurts me, he kept pressuring me to … Continue reading

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comforting him…

He is often sad about his mom’s death (understandably) and needs to talk and cry. I’m trying to be comforting. But I am also finding it difficult. I know this is a hard time for him.  I understand that.  I … Continue reading

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thoughts

His mother died yesterday morning. I am okay with her death.  I don’t think I was quite the daughter-in-law and neighbor she hoped I would be.  I think because we didn’t really have any shared interests, it was kind of … Continue reading

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His mom

His mom is unresponsive this morning and they put her on oxygen. For about the past week and half, she has been in the hospital and then a rehab center. My husband and his dad will be going over there … Continue reading

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he apologized

He said, I want to apologize to you.  I’m sorry I hurt you. Please, can’t you forgive me? I’m still sleeping in the living room.

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slept in the living room

I slept in the living room last night. I had gotten everything ready to sleep in my older daughter’s bedroom (she lives and goes to college in another state), but when it came time to go to bed, for some … Continue reading

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last night / this morning

(This post is only a few short words and it doesn’t fully convey the time involved and the intensity of my emotions.) Last night, when I was almost asleep, he told me that he wanted, needed sex.  He told me … Continue reading

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