his mom = the country

His mom is not doing well.

She has had bone cancer for over three years now and the bones in her back have really, really deteriorated.  She is in the hospital right now because surgery they did on her back awhile ago has collapsed and she is in extreme pain.  And today my husband said that her stomach is paralyzed, also.  She will be coming home tomorrow with medication to hopefully help her stomach function again.

Two nights ago, when she was admitted to the hospital with so much pain after the surgery collapsing, it was really hard on my husband.  He talked about her and her pain and the hopelessness of it and he cried.  It’s really hard on him to see his mom going through so much.  I listened and held his hand and tried to “be there for him.”  He told me thank you for listening to him.

Even though I am not in love with him and he has done a lot of damage to our family, I still have compassion for him and the things he and his dad are going through with his mom.  I am not unfeeling.  I do care about people and difficult situations.

Last night he told me that he had been thinking about his mom and her hopeless situation, with her health deteriorating.  He said that she would only get worse and worse and worse and then she would die.  But he didn’t cry this time.  Then he started talking about how it was the same with America, that America is in decline and that the country would only get worse and worse and worse and then it would die.

That was just weird to me.  It felt very creepy.

Regardless of how you feel about the political/moral situation of the US, it was really disturbing to hear him comparing America to his mom’s health situation.

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2 Responses to his mom = the country

  1. newshoes123 says:

    Strange comment but he’s been in a strange mood according to your other posts as well. It sounds like he might be a little depressed.

    Good on you that you still have compassion for someone even though they hurt you so badly over the years. It just shows what an amazing person you are.

    Here’s hoping things improve for both of you. And sending healthy thoughts for your mother-in-law.

  2. Seeing the Light says:

    Weird. Almost a child-like attempt at an analogy and at an understanding of the world. They live in such an odd world.

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