Monthly Archives: February 2012

Something cool.

Posted on February 29, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

A couple of weeks ago, I finished the New Choices Program offered by the Women’s Resource Center.  As part of the program, graduates can sign up to have a mentor for the next year to help them reach their goals.  … Continue reading →

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Lovable

Posted on February 29, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

“You are loveable.  Yes, you. Just because people haven’t been there for you, just because certain people haven’t been able to show love for you in ways that worked, just because relationships have failed or gone sour does not mean … Continue reading →

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Something I’ve noticed

Posted on February 28, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

In one of the sessions, a few months back, with Julie, the therapist, she asked me what was a good period in our relationship for me.  I thought for a minute, and what came to me kind of surprised me.  … Continue reading →

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Immaturity

Posted on February 27, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

Last night I asked him if it ever felt like to him that we had nothing between us.  He said, sometimes.  Then he did the usual, I want things to be different, I want us to do things together, I … Continue reading →

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Fear

Posted on February 26, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

I’m afraid. I’m afraid of things – the marriage – staying the same. I’m afraid of change, of moving on, of moving away from the marriage. I’m afraid of staying where I am financially. I’m afraid of a new job. … Continue reading →

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Life on hold

Posted on February 26, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

Sometimes I read other blogs on “Freshly Pressed,” which is part of WordPress.com.  People out there are doing amazing things.  It makes me feel like my life is really scummy, like I am doing absolutely nothing with my life. So … Continue reading →

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Lies? – pt. 2

Posted on February 24, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

I hate it when he tells me stuff like I wrote about in the previous post.  I hate it that it makes me hope that things really will get better.  I hate it that it creates such a conflict in … Continue reading →

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Lies?

Posted on February 24, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

Last night, he asked me what I was thinking and I told him that I didn’t want to be here.  He asked me where I wanted to be and I told him, in a pretty house that wasn’t falling down.  … Continue reading →

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What a relationship should be

Posted on February 23, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

I’m reading the book “Should I Stay or Should I Go? – A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can – and Should – Be Saved.” Here’s part of what I read today. “What a Relationship Can – and Should … Continue reading →

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“Admiration”

Posted on February 22, 2012 by Writing about Passive Aggression

In the “His  Needs, Her Needs” book, it says that men need admiration.  I know this.  But I am not good at this. I find it very hard to admire him.  Years ago, when I was going through all the … Continue reading →

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