As you may, or may not, know, my house has some pretty serious issues. We own the house, so these are our problems. Not a landlord’s.
The roof leaks, the well leaks, the beams under the floor are rotting, and the septic system is failing. Pretty serious stuff for a home-owner.
Now, these things bug me. I don’t want to live in a dilapidated house. Not what I want for myself.
Ideally, this would be something my husband and I would talk about and work out a plan to fix and actually make progress in some way toward taking care of these things.
However, in reality, nothing.
There really is no point in even bringing any of this up because, one, he already knows the problems exist, two, he doesn’t make enough money to fix them, three, he doesn’t have any inclination to try to earn more money, and, four, even if we had the money, I seriously doubt he would do anything about the problems. (I speak from experience on #4.)
I got a job so I could get the roof fixed, but now that I am more serious about maybe leaving, I don’t know if I should spend the money to fix the roof.
I guess I am writing this because I wish we could talk about these things. But I know it would be fruitless. I don’t know where I am trying to go with this.